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How Do You Know You Are an Empath

This week I asked myself, “How do you know you are an empath?” My love of research led me to begin with the Google query, ‘definition of empath’.

Definition of Empath

The top result from Dictionary declared empath is a term used in science fiction literature, suggesting it’s a figment of our imagination. The second definition result is from Merriam-Webster. This one, I like..mostly.

One who experiences the emotions of others: a person who has empathy for others

Don’t you love it when the root word you are trying to understand is now used slightly differently in it’s definition? Now we need to understand empathy too.

The Google results from ‘definition of empathy’ were skewed exactly opposite from empath. Here is the top result from Dictionary for empathy.

The ability to understand and share the feelings of others

Certainly, my definition of empath is one who experiences the emotions of others.

How Do You Know You’re an Empath?

Your experiences and reactions are unique. Therefore, some of these circumstances may ring true, if indeed you are an empath..

  • Large crowds cause discomfort
  • Relationships with ‘users’
  • Craving the peace of alone time
  • Saying yes too much
  • Over sensitivity to noise, smell, or conversations
  • Feeling exhausted after social situations
  • Finding you startle easily
  • Hearing “You’re over sensitive”
  • Preference for sleeping alone
  • Overeating to cope with stress
  • Difficulty making good decisions

Still not sure you are an empath? Take this 20-question self assessment test from Dr. Judith Orloff.

What to do Next

If you took the assessment and know you are an empath, don’t despair. In contrast, celebrate your naturally loving nature. Furthermore, give these ideas a try.

It Appears I’m an Empath

This realization may be difficult to swallow.  In contrast, you have a lot to give the world and the world needs you. Sit with this new knowledge and take the first step toward a more fulfilled life.

Ground and Reset:

  • Move to a quiet, private location
  • Sit upright
  • Relax your hands in your lap
  • Gently close your eyes
  • Slowly breathe in through your nose
  • Out through your relaxed mouth
  • Repeat this slow breathing three times
  • Feel the weight of your body in your hips
  • Now feel this heaviness down to your feet
  • Imagine this weight extending into the earth
  • The weight becomes roots into the soil
  • Continue slowly breathing
  • Gently open your eyes

Doesn’t that feel soothing? It’s a wonderful way to start everyday. Certainly, use this technique whenever circumstances feel overwhelming.

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Moving ever forward,
Dawn

I Welcome You 2021

It’s time to say, “I welcome you 2021” with gusto!

Resolutions or Goals?

Resolutions suggest you need to change. Goals say, “I’m excited about my possibilities!” Will you join me in choosing goals?

Letting Go of the Past

My last post was about letting go of Thankful for 20192019 with gratitude. Perhaps you need to review that process. Basically, with thankfulness, we can more easily let go of past disappointment and pain. After all, there is nothing we can do about the past or the future.

Our best option is living in the moment.

Steps to Welcome 2021

First, ground yourself and take a few deep breaths. If you need a little more help on getting yourself grounded and ready for this welcome to 2021 exercise, review my article on saying goodbye to 2020.

Next, write a love letter to 2021. Include why you are excited to step into a new year, what you are ready to create, and the experiences, intentions, and goals for 2021. Simple, right?

If You Find This Difficult

Give yourself a break, literally and figuratively. This last year has been rough for everyone. Ease into 2021 with daily self-care rituals and lots of alone time for contemplation.

Reread the Steps to Welcome 2021 slowly. Write them out in a way that speaks to you. Restart your love letter to 2021 or start a new one. Be gentle with yourself.

Nope – I’m a Superstar at This

If you are feeling confident about your love letter to 2021, you might want to go a step further and create a place of honor for your letter. Surround it with  objects that make you smile. Draw beautiful symbols around the edges. You can also frame it. Use your intuition to create just the right place for your love letter.

Final Tips for Your Letter

Expounding on your letter, you could create a list of goals for 2021. Maybe you find 2, 5, 10, or even more goals in your letter. Go with your gut feeling or place your hand over your heart and breathe into your goal list. Listen. Feel. You will know when it is right. You will know when you have finished; when you have said, “I welcome you 2021” fully.

Finally, I want to thank Connie Chapman, my go-to life coach, for teaching me all about letting go and setting goals to live my inspired life. We all need support, mentors, and love on this journey called life.

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Bravely moving into 2021,
Dawn

Say Goodbye To 2020 With Ease

Are you ready to say, “Goodbye 2020” with ease? It has certainly been a year to remember, or is it a year to forget?

A Dual Focus

As we near the end of 2020, there will be a bombardment of the highlights of the year. It seems there was both good and bad in past reviews in the media. Will that be true for 2020?

I’m proposing a different perspective to say “Goodbye 2020” with ease.

Rather than look at the headlines, consider looking inward to your personal experience. The duality of any year retrospective might be:

  1. What are you grateful for?
  2. What do you want to release?

I’ve done this before with Connie Chapman’s 21-day end of the year journaling class, but this time was so different.

Intention Within Ritual

Let’s get started:

  • Find a quiet place to be alone
  • Gather paper and pencil
  • Sit upright with your feet firmly planted on the floor
  • Close your eyes and place your hands atop your heart
  • Take 3 deep breaths in through your nose, out through your mouth
  • Say, “I am ready to remember all the good and release all the pain of 2020.”

Open your eyes. Now we begin the actual process by writing a love letter to 2020.

  • Start your letter with “Dear 2020,”
  • Now write out everything you give thanks for during 2020
  • Next express everything you want to let go of from 2020
  • Include anything you wish to complete before 2021
  • Sign your letter as you would any other love letter

Take your time with this exercise. Close your eyes and wait for the words to come.

What if You Get Stuck?

If closing your eyes doesn’t help, perhaps you need a few hours or a few days of self care. Yes… you are worth it. You can refer to my article on self care for some ideas.

Don’t give up on this. Remember that small steps result in big change over time. If you can come up with only one thing to give thanks for during 2020, that is your first step.  It’s okay. Then go to the next step. Perhaps you’ll find ten things to let go of from 2020. It’s okay.

How Did That Feel?

For me, writing the thank you list felt like I was filling my body with sweet gratitude. Then writing the releasing portion, I felt the energy of each declaration physically leave my body. Some were much more intense than others.

There is a ritual I added to say goodbye to 2020 with ease. I tore the letter up, cleansed my area with sage and burned the pieces of my letter safely in a flameproof bowl. To prevent burning my fingers, I used a long butane lighter. Sitting at the breakfast bar didn’t seem right at first. Quickly, I turned away thoughts and focused on feelings. The burning ritual felt peaceful; no anxiety, no joy, just neutral.

Although not optimal, the breakfast bar was good enough.
I am good enough.
You are good enough.

What About 2021?

As you might have guessed, there is another ritual to help prepare for the new year, 2021. Rather than start a second ritual right now, let’s sit with this one a few days.

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Preparing for a new year,
Dawn