Learning from their life choices is a great way to avoid some pitfalls. In this instance I’m referring to my mother. I have cared for her the last five years. In spite of my age (67), this past week I’ve seen clearly how my own choices can be improved.
Choose Your Viewpoint
Learning from their life choices, is influenced by the viewpoint we select.
- Looking downward in judgement
- From a place below them, feeling defensive
- Stretching out with care and curiosity
#3 is a viewpoint that enriches our lives and the lives of others. We are equal on this earthly plane. In fact, the equality is based on our sameness. Furthermore, we are all on this earth to learn, grow, and find our uniqueness, our special way we can help each other.
You Don’t Need to Feel Apologetic
If you feel a burden to others, remember “It’s okay.” You are teaching them something valuable.
If you feel you are or have been burdened by others, remember, “It’s okay.” Their difficulty is a window into your internal struggles. This is even true when they are no longer in your life.
We can bring memories into the present moment, activate our curiosity about what we can learn from it and transform the memory into a peaceful, heart-filled new reality.
Add a Dose of Gratefulness
I find meditation is a beautiful way to start the day. The Ten Percent Happier app is my go to place each morning. For instance, today Anushka Fernandopulle led me through a ten minute Grateful for Your Body meditation. It was exactly what I needed.
I invite you to download the Ten Percent app and try it. If it resonates, keep it and pay for it. Yes, I know there are tons of free meditations on YouTube. If you are happy with that and use it everyday, you need look no farther. For me, I find the helpful words of the meditation experts on Ten Percent Happier app are exactly right for me.
“Their difficulty is a window into your internal struggles.” – THIS. I resonated so deeply with your post and agree that when we seek to understand rather than convince, we can deepen our connections with self and others.
Thank you, Mallorie. Knowing my words touched your heart filled me with joy.